Paramore - Decode

Ttitle : Paramore - Decode

Yesterday, something good happened. A friend's wife contacted me, explaining her situation to me and how she should deal with it. You see, her husband is quite a religious person, teaching religious subject to people and often when he does his duty for god, he would always bring his wife with him. I know him, a very nice and honest guy.

His wife is also a nice person, always wanting to marry a person with good religious background, someone that could lead the family. She got what she wanted, but she did not expect her husband to be sort of a proactive person when it comes to religion. He believes it is his duty as a person, husband and most importantly as god's humble servant to give as much for god as he could, saying the amount of time we allocate for HIM daily wasn't enough for the things he has given to us. It makes perfect sense to me as I am one of the people who understood his intentions and actions well enough to support what he is doing.

His wife however, is feeling the burden of having to follow her husband around as a support. Yes, one option would be for her to just stay at home but being just married, women like to know where her husband is at most of the time, especially at night correct? hence why her husband also wants her to come along, see him do what he does.She didn't say she wanted to leave him but hinted that she feels heavy to what her husband is doing.

I told her that she should talk to her husband about this and she did, stating that she knows what her husband is doing is not wrong its just that, what he does,does not match her daily regime, she is not use to doing what he does, she can choose to stay at home but being home alone when her husband is out at night is not something newly weds would like to do and that's when she asked for my opinion.

I said nicely to her, saying that she should be lucky her husband is not doing anything that would break her trust towards him, ie- sleeping with another woman, gambling, stealing ,etc etc. I also said that its rare to get somebody who values religion so much as that is a great quality to have as a father and a husband and I know that he just wants the best for you and your future kids, he wanted to set a good example being a good husband, a good worker and a good servant of god. I said that he could not ask for a better partner to accompany him in doing what he does and it is something you should be proud of as many other women out there sadly finds out too late that they could not find the same qualities in their husband. A lot of people can claim they are religious and can be a good example to the family but only a few shows it with action.

In the end I said to her, do not worry about your husband. He will either follow prophet Noah's history or prophet Muhammad's history in which in Noah's history, his wife chose not to follow him whereas in Muhammad's history, his wife followed him till her end. Its up to you to choose which Sunnah you want your husband to be in, in which both guarantees her husband's place in heaven.

She paused for a moment and replied, "you are right. One of the reason I married him because of his religious qualities, something that he has and I do not, which would make him somebody who could lead the family. I have never fought with him, he has never shown me any kind of distrust and I know he loves me. I will find a way to work things out with him". " ...Then you have found the answer to your question" I replied.

One good deed amongst the mountain-full of bad deeds.. you've got a long way to go mate! - to myself..haha